Phrases to disrupt microaggressions

Microaggressions are defined as "the everyday slights, indignities, put downs and insults that people of color, women, LGBT populations or those who are marginalized experiences in their day-to-day interactions with people," by Psychologist Derald W. Sue. Sue highlights that microaggressions are often committed by well-meaning people who don't realize the harm they caused, and that microaggressions are often disguised as compliments or jokes. ("You don't act Black!")

The sneaky and often unintentional nature of microaggressions is what makes them so important to address. There are a variety of approaches you can take to address microaggressions. And the approach you use will vary based on your relationship with the person, if you are the target or an ally, what environment you are in, and more. But feeling familiar with these approaches is so important so that you can take action in the moment!

Approach 1: Make the "invisible" visible

What do you mean by that?

Help me understand your thinking.

Are you assuming that because of the way they look?

What was that about?

Do you realize what you just said?

Approach 2: Disarm the microaggression

That's not how I see it.

That joke made me uncomfortable.

You know I value tolerance, so I would appreciate if you don't make those comments.

I don't agree with that.

Woah, let's not go there!

Approach 3: Educate the offender

That is just a negative stereotype.

Imagine if someone assumed that about you.

I know you care about being a good friend, so I want you to know that joke was hurtful.

You might not have realized it, but that comment was demeaning.

You should talk with him. You actually have a lot in common.

It is on all of us to disrupt microaggressions. Next time you hear a microaggression, say something.